Posts Tagged ‘brothers’

Getting so big and clever

February 8, 2014

Argh! Time is flying, I keep thinking of things to blog but then don’t get around to doing it.

The boys are getting bigger and better at everything. Bub is now four. Can you believe it? He’s suddenly got really into drawing and writing. He does ‘stories’ in which he draws random letters and numbers on the page. And his pictures aren’t scribbles any more. His people have faces, bodies, legs, toes, even shoes. And big smiley faces!
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And Baby is nearly one. He’s started to pull up to standing all the time. Though rather annoyingly for all concerned he doesn’t yet know how to get back down.
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Dens

January 7, 2014

What is it with boys and dens? My three year old absolutely loves them. This usually means we end up spending the day with a third of the living room and half the cushions out of action as he builds up his latest den. Baby brother is just delighted when he gets to join in too.

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Call and response

November 21, 2013

Baby has started to make a variety of vocal sounds and noises. It’s really exciting. He’ll make a ‘ssss’ sound and then laugh when I do one back. Often we’ll have what are almost conversations where we are hissing and smiling at each other. He also makes ‘duh duh’ and ‘buh buh’ sounds.

This is all lots of fun. And in massive contrast to his big brother. Bub had very delayed speech and I don’t remember him ever testing out sounds or doing call and response type stuff. All this makes me think that Baby will be speaking much sooner than Bub did.
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Fireworks

November 5, 2013

Went to a local fireworks display. Baby’s first. It went surprisingly well. He’s very sensitive to some noises but didn’t mind the fireworks at all. Some borrowed war defenders helped. He spent the display tucked up safe in my sling watching the bright lights with a look of complete awe on his face. Three year old Bub loved them too and watched with a massive grin. My boys clearly do have a taste for all things loud.

I didn’t get any photos of our fireworks outing. But here’s a lovely one of the two boys this Halloween.

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Eight months old

October 29, 2013

Wow, time flies. All of a sudden my little baby isn’t quite so little. He is crawling, in fact. Amazing. His big brother didn’t do this for another six weeks so Baby is well ahead in the mobility stakes. Probably a by-product of spending much more time on the floor…

Anyway I thought it’d be interesting to contrast the two little ones at the same age. So here we go, first big brother Bub and then little Baby.

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These also show another major difference. Teeth. Baby has had two teeth for quite a while. Bub didn’t get them till nine months. Both at this stage are still fairly chubby, though Bub slimmed down a lot once he started crawling. Will be interesting to see if the pattern repeats itself.

So, my two boys. Feels like only yesterday Bub was eight months and now he’s almost four. Gosh!

So pissed off with sleep issues right now

July 2, 2013

Never again shall I post up about our sleeping success. It’s definitely a jinxing thing to do. Twice I’ve done this, saying we seem to be getting there. And twice it’s been only a few days until it feels like square one again. Maybe it’s me getting complacent which swings it?

Anyway things are crap with sleep again. With BOTH kids. Baby’s routine is all out of whack which is leading to him feeding just before sleep. Uh oh! And yes, of course, it didn’t take too long for this to take us right back to where we started. He now desperately wants to feed to sleep and we’re having to sleep train all over again. As for his big brother I really don’t know what is going on. He’s regularly screaming in his room at bedtime and refusing to go to bed. I think Baby’s bedtime tears are upsetting Bub. But it’s also my decreased availability to him as I stay with Baby through the tears. And all our heightened stress levels and tiredness doesn’t help. Feels like the whole house is over tired and it’s no fun.

Last night both Baby and Bub screamed themselves to sleep… And then Bub woke at 2am shouting and screaming and refusing to be comforted. And of course Baby woke at 4.30am. And at 7.30am he was up for the day. And has only just dozed off after yet more tears at nap time. This is crap and I am shattered!

So pissed off with sleep issues right now

July 2, 2013

Never again shall I post up about our sleeping success. It’s definitely a jinxing thing to do. Twice I’ve done this, saying we seem to be getting there. And twice it’s been only a few days until it feels like square one again. Maybe it’s me getting complacent which swings it?

Anyway things are crap with sleep again. With BOTH kids. Baby’s routine is all out of whack which is leading to him feeding just before sleep. Uh oh! And yes, of course, it didn’t take too long for this to take us right back to where we started. He now desperately wants to feed to sleep and we’re having to sleep train all over again. As for his big brother I really don’t know what is going on. He’s regularly screaming in his room at bedtime and refusing to go to bed. I think Baby’s bedtime tears are upsetting Bub. But it’s also my decreased availability to him as I stay with Baby through the tears. And all our heightened stress levels and tiredness doesn’t help. Feels like the whole house is over tired and it’s no fun.

Last night both Baby and Bub screamed themselves to sleep… And then Bub woke at 2am shouting and screaming and refusing to be comforted. And of course Baby woke at 4.30am. And at 7.30am he was up for the day. And has only just dozed off after yet more tears at nap time. This is crap and I am shattered!

Not so brotherly love

May 30, 2013

Oh dear, oh dear. Was giving the two boys a bath tonight when three year old Bub came out with the following:

“I don’t like [Baby]. Please you throw him away and get another baby.”

Closely followed by:

“I want to throw [Baby] out of the window.”

Hmmm. And there was me thinking he was getting better about having a little brother!

Ten weeks old and feeding to sleep all the time

May 5, 2013

Have decided to bite the bullet and start to encourage our almost ten week old Baby into more of a day time routine. I’ve loved the flexibility of not having one. But he’s definitely now got a really strong feed to sleep association and I don’t really want it to continue. So in order to help me distinguish between hunger and tiredness cues I think we need a bit more structure to our day.

Baby feeds often at the moment, both when hungry or tired. Sometimes when he is tired and wants to suck but not feed he gets really cross when the milk comes down. I also can’t leave him for more than a few minutes and am the only one who can get him to sleep. He will sleep in the sling and (sometimes) in the car. But it’s almost always feeding that gets him to sleep at the moment. He’ll even doze off feeding straight after having had a long nap.

His older brother Bub was never one to feed to sleep as a newborn. He was much more influenced by movement and rocking was his sleep ‘prop’ for several months. Until my back could take no more, anyway!! He had very defined feeds – he’d feed happily for a time and then stop when he was full. He also had very definite growth spurts when he’d feed seemingly non-stop. Once my milk came in I’ve had no recognisable growth spurts with Baby at all. Perhaps he feeds more frequently but I don’t notice? Baby also dozes off during pretty much every feed so I never know if they have properly finished. If I wake him he then happily relatches and immediately starts to doze again. It’s easy to see why his feed to sleep association has developed!

I have had a fair bit of experience with entrenched sleep associations with Bub. We started with rocking. And when my back gave out at about five months we moved to feeding to sleep. Which was beautiful and snuggly. Until he started to wake hourly (yes, hourly!) all night in search of the breast. At about seven months I was a sleep deprived wreck and we had to undertake drastic measures. Fortunately we finally found a no-tears solution which eventually resolved these issues. But this time around I also have a toddler to contend with. Spending an hour getting Baby to sleep is a luxury I can’t really afford. So I’m keen to help him find another way sooner rather than later. And hopefully do it in a gentle way too.

Today was day one and it went rather well. Will update on what we did and our progress soon. In the meantime here’s a link to an old post giving five things I wish I’d known first time about baby sleep.

First cuddle

April 5, 2013

We didn’t want to push Bub into holding his baby brother till he was ready. It’s been five weeks but here it is…
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Aww, our first proper picture of the two boys together and their first cuddle.


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